It’s been a while since we posted
something on our blog, and we’re sorry for that. Reasons for that varies: lack
of time, holidays, new places, new people, new adventures.
Mainly we
haven’t written anything, because we are tired. Since we started to write this
blog, we follow various news outlets and women-centered stories and we are
surrounded by enormous pile of shit, it’s unbelievable.
Of course, we should
expect that, nobody promised us roses and daisies and that all be just cuddly,
sweet and super – duper cool and we all be friends once we start the feminist
blog.
We knew
it’s going to be hard.
Nevertheless,
the amount of hatred and negative energy and resentment towards women and any
subject (even remotely) connected to feminism is just suffocating. It’s
overwhelming. It’s appalling.
If I see
any bit of news where the rape victim is blamed for her assault; where somebody
is saying something so absolutely and terrifyingly sexist and stupid; where an
influential speaker lacks the understanding of basic mechanisms of functioning
of society, human body or psychology; where a person gets criticized for
defense of somebody’s rights – I swear to God, I’m going to scream, yell, throw
a tantrum and go on maniac spree where I will be painting dicks on government’s
buildings.
I’m serious.
In terms
of gender equality, feminism, sexual orientation, sexual attraction, gender
roles, sexual violence, misogyny and patriarchy, there is whole wide world out
there of different opinions. Unfortunately, those most offensive and hateful
are the one that are yelled the loudest.
I just
cannot understand how much hate and negativity people bear inside of them. Is
it really that difficult to understand that everybody wants normal and happy
life? Is it so terrible that I, as a woman, may see the problems in modern
society and just want to feel safe and have the same prospects as men? I don’t
want your money, I just want the sense of security that I’m protected by law
and government from exploitation, sexual assault, domestic violence,
trafficking and discrimination. Is it really that much to ask?
And what
about all other-than-heterosexual people? Is it really that much of a tragedy
that they will commit to a person of the same sex? Many countries are accepting
gay marriage and somehow the world didn’t devilishly turned upside-down. So why
is it still such a tragedy to “God fearing” but really hypocritically backwards
societies to accept that everybody has a right to a family, to love and be loved
by a person of their choice?
Transgender
and transsexual people! They are just want to bring the world to an end! If we
ever see the world crumbling down, it’s because of them. How DARE they defy
God’s decisions? If the God gave them penis, they are bound to love that penis
and cherish that penis for the rest of their life. If the God gave them vagina,
it’s designed to give pleasure to the penis, so don’t you dare getting rid of
it!
For
crying out loud, it doesn’t hurt society and people if one person just changes
some things about their body. You can’t see it from the Eiffel Tower, you can’t
see it from the moon, so it really doesn’t destroy the grand scheme of things.
But it might, just MIGHT make somebody happier about and with themselves.
That’s
just the few examples of the hatred and discrimination and hostility that other
people endure. Most often the people who dare to be different, who dare to
stand out, who dare to disagree with generally accepted norms and who dare to
speak up are the ones who takes the most beatings.
So I have
a message to all of those hateful and discriminating people. And other people
as well.
In life
and in society there are two things: things that matter and things that don’t
matter.
What
doesn’t matter is your opinion.
Sure, you
have a right to an opinion, but generally speaking, your opinion is irrelevant.
It doesn’t matter if you are a “normal” person and it shouldn’t definitely
matter if you are a politician or a public person. And most importantly,
nobody’s opinion, that is in any way potentially discriminatory, should be
taken into consideration when deciding about other people lives. Somebody’s
interpretation of religious norms cannot be considered when implementing a
piece of legislation. It cannot be considered when talking about other people
freedoms and rights. And it unquestionably cannot lead to limitation of the
rights of others.
The thing
that matters is whether every person that is a part of a society, community or
locality has equal rights. Can he or she do whatever they want with their life?
Their career? Their future? Their body? Can her or she participate in a social
life in the same way than another he or she can?
The thing
that matters is that you have no right to limit freedoms of others. You have no
right to spread your hate and suffocate others with your bigotry and
self-ideation. There is a freedom of speech, you have a right to speak – but
have also the right to remain silent. But it would be advisable for you to use
the second option more often.
You have
a right to have an opinion, to have your say, but don’t think for even the
moment that you have a right to shove it in the faces of the others that you
deem unworthy of existing. You are not creating a better future with your
hatred, you are not creating anything. You are leading to a destruction of
norms and deterioration of society.
I’m
watching the news and I don’t believe in what I’m seeing. In Poland there is a
medieval level discussion about domestic violence, with politicians and priests
speaking against European Treaty on Violence Against Women. They cannot come up
with a comprehensive legislation, because some politicians are against any
other definition of family than “catholic” one. Also Poland is dragging its
feet in terms of civil partnership or same-sex marriages, because… it’s against
the “normal” definitions of families.
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| I see here four families? What about you? |
You know
what you can do with your limited definition of family? You can stick into your…
significant bottom of the body. I don’t care whether you think that me and my
partner are a family. I don’t care. For me, we ARE and that’s what matters. And only that should matter.
I hear
the cavemen-style conversation about women being subordinate, wanting to be
raped and deserving to be beaten. I see people protesting against equal rights
for gay or transgender people, sex education, contraception, abortion, just
basically anything that doesn’t concern them, but could somehow make other
people’s life easier.
It’s
sickening.
I just
encountered the story, where anti-abortionists suggest euthanasia for raped
women, because if they are willing to “kill” one of the rapists victims – a child,
we can also kill the second victim as well. I will not even go into deeper
discussion about abortion and all of the shit that “pro-life”, but really
pro-nobody-f****-knows-what (because definitely it’s not life) claims. But how
can a person, a man, who will NEVER get pregnant, be so fast to judge another
person, their decision, their willingness to pick up the pieces after a
traumatic event and carry on with what’s left of their normality.
If you
are a man, shut up on the topics of how it is to be a woman.
You are a
woman who leads happy successful life? Shut up when the women who didn’t have
as much luck as you do speak up of what happened to them.
You are
white? Never dare to say that racism doesn’t exist and black people do not
encounter any discrimination. And don’t you ever dare to say that immigrants
are to blame for any mishaps in your country. You and other citizens fucked up,
not them.
You are
heterosexual person sure of their sexuality? Just don’t talk about how confused
gay, bisexual or other-than-heterosexual people are. You now nothing, you are
not them, so just shut up and let them be.
Are you
happy with God-given gender? Good for you. But don’t use that God to bring
down, humiliate and bully people who are convinced that God might have made
mistake and they are on the path to correct that mistake.
Or maybe he is a guy who wears dreasses. Good for him, most of dresses are super comfy. You think he is disgusting? You are disgusting. He doesn't impact on your life, so stop trying to impact on his.
How can
we claim to celebrate life, when most of us lack empathy, sympathy, warmth,
understanding, willingness to understand (to any degree). Why is self-righteous
bigotry so glorified and cherished, while any sign of solidarity with discriminated,
underprivileged, victimized and invisible condemned and even socially punished?
My
conclusion is as follows: if it doesn’t limit your basic human rights (below),
but you don’t agree with it, just shut up and deal with it. If it does limit
your rights and freedom, fight against it, but always remember – your freedom
ends where another person’s starts.
Written by Vespertilio
P.S. For those who have no idea what human rights are, here is the link to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights and the European Convention on Human Rights. There is a high chance that you live in a country that accepted the Declaration, so get familiar with it and just try to respect rights of others.
P.S. 2. Last but not least... Song for all haters.
